7.15.2013

INNER BEAUTY | Motivation Monday! Is FAILURE the BEST Thing that Could EVER Happen to YOU ?

Happy Monday my Inside-Out Beauties!

Have you noticed how the world is obsessed about SUCCESS?  That kind of rhymed :)  But seriously, all this talking about success makes me wonder... are we paying FAILURE all the attention it deserves?  I briefly talked about the fear of failure on my WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER BE AFRAID post...  But I didn't get deeper into how much more valuable it is to fail, than to succeed.  No, I haven't lost my mind. And this is not simply about positive or wishful thinking, and it is definitely NOT about wanting to fail. It is about the value of experiencing failure from a different perspective. Stay with me for a couple of minutes, and I know you will understand what I mean, by the time you finish reading this post.  I know some may not agree, and that's ok, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But some of you might be able to understand a different point of view on failure, that, paradoxically, is shared by many of the most successful people in the world.

So keep reading because I truly believe this might touch your hearts...



The idea of writing this post started last Saturday, as I was watching a few inspirational videos on TEDTalks.com and I came accross JK Rowling's Harvard commencement speech video.  Now, many of you know I'm a softie by now, but this video sure moved me to tears.  And I just had to share my thoughts about it, as well as the highlights of her speech.   I can start by saying, I wish I had watched this video before.  It would have reassured me of the way I have been feeling about life's ups & downs, for the past few years.  But back to JK Rowling, I'm sure she doesn't need much introduction... but just in case, she's the billionaire writer behind Harry Potter.  But this wasn't always this way.  Years before she became a billionaire writer, JK Rowling was divorced, unemployed, poor and with a baby to take care of, all by herself.  As she says in her Harvard commencement speech, at that point, she felt she had pretty much failed at everything a person could fail in life.... and yet, she wouldn't be who she is today, had she not been deprived, and stripped from everything she had in her life.

 “I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realized, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
- J.K. Rowling - Harvard Commencement Speech

She had been afraid of being poor and of failing for years, and her worst nightmare had actually come true.  She had become that person who she always feared to become.  The person her own parents feared she would become.  She was in the darkest place in her life.  She had fallen and hit the ground so hard and now she had nowhere to go... but UP ! She had nothing to loose now, and everything from that moment of absolute poverty and dispair on, would actually be a gain.  So in a way, she had failed trying to become what others had wanted her to become.  And this time, she could reinvent herself, and risk failure but for being exactly who she trully was: a writer with a story to tell.  

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default.”
J.K. Rowling  - Harvard Commencement Speech

I think the greatest inspiration I found in her speech, is that such a powerful woman, would be humble enough to share her darkest times and show the world that you can always pick yourself up.  But most of all, Rowling strips the negative connotation of the word failure... to actually tell us all:  don't be afraid, failure is a part of living... and he who never failes, never lives.

I remember my Mom told me once, "if you never drive, you'll never crash or scratch the car".  Meaning that taking action implies the possibility of making mistakes and taking the risk of making them.  Spectators may criticize, sure that's their thing...  But DOERS, they're too busy making things happen, and learning from their experiences. 

Even Pope Frances said a couple of weeks ago "There are dark days, even days when we fail, even days when we fall. [Sometimes] one falls but always think of this: don't be afraid of failures. Don't be afraid of falling. What matters in the art of journeying isn't not falling but not staying down. Get up right away and continue going forward. This is what's beautiful: this is working every day, this is journeying as humans".


So as you can see JK Rowling is not the only successful person in this world to have this concept of resilience, as the right approach towards failure.

You might have heard that, as an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, "How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?" Edison replied, I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.


Steve jobs, another unforgettable and inspirational man who experienced success and failure, always advised people not to fear failure.  He said "Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."


And I really think he is right.  We are here to live and try to achieve our goals, whichever they might be.  It is important to remember that being conservative will not guarantee success or happiness in our lives either, and being afraid of failure may take away your freedom and even paralize us.  As I said in previous inner beauty posts, maybe we should start reconsidering how we feel about our failures.  When you think about it, it is truly the only real opportunity a person gets to grow.  You don't grow when you feel on top of the world. You celebrate, maybe, but you don't grow.  You grow when you step out of your comfort zone and follow your heart, your passion, even if you are afraid of the uncertainty ahead of you.  The world wouldn't have light bulbs, Harry Potter, the iPhone, or a South American Pope, had these people above not followed their calls, dreams, passions and taken risks, overcome difficulties and most importantly, persisted and GROWN in spite of, or shall we now say... THANK TO failure. 



I leave you to JK Rowlings unforgettable speech, which I wholeheartedly recommend you listen to.






Hope this post has inspired you to take risks and fail with pride, if you shall.  Because success is just around the corner... of FAILURE!  It really is.    We just need to LEARN from FAILURE... how to SUCCEED!

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5 comments:

  1. Just tweeted this gret post so true I was reading this book the other day called fear it and do it anyway but it's too in depth this is much more light hearted and straight to the point so thanks :)

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    1. Hi Annie! I'm glad you enjoyed. That book sounds interesting though :) Yes, I agree this is supposed to be lighter reading because it's just a Beauty Blog.... an Inside-Out Beauty Blog :)

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  2. Such a great post! I love J.K. Rowling, she is wonderful.

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  3. Thank you so much Martha! I agree, she's great! <3

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  4. Hi Annie! I'm glad you enjoyed. That book sounds interesting though :)
    Yes, I agree this is supposed to be lighter reading because it's just a
    Beauty Blog.... an Inside-Out Beauty Blog :)

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