4.01.2013

INNER BEAUTY | How to Be Happy #2: Forgive!

Hi my Inside-Out Beauties! 

Hope you had a lovely Easter, if you celebrate it.
I'm so happy to be writing my second post on this How to Be a Little Happier Every Day series, that started about 2 weeks ago.  

I was inspired to write this by Pope Frances' Easter Message:  
"Turn hate into love, revenge into forgiveness and sadness into joy".

Regardless of your religious belief, I deeply hope we can appreciate and reflect together on  the beauty in this phrase, and how we can all be happier by embracing forgiveness.
It is not true that forgiveness is something we do for others...

The greatest benefits of forgiveness are for the forgiver him/herself.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you were wrong by feeling hurt in the first place.It does not necessarily imply that you will trust that person again blindly, or that you will not seek for justice if something terrible and illegal was done to you. 


Forgiveness is not just a phrase one says "I forgive you", but a genuine and emotional internal process we go through, not for others, but for ourselves.  

Lewis B. Smedes wrote in his book, Forgive and Forget, "When you release the wrongdoer from the wrong, you cut a malignant tumor out of your inner life. You set a prisoner free, but you discover that the real prisoner was yourself."

A prisoner of what?  Of negative feelings like hate, revenge, resentment... all of which link you to your past, and prevent you from living a happier life TODAY.

We've all been hurt, by a person or by a situation in life...
Maybe you were bullied in school by someone, your mother failed you in some way, you had a terrible loss of someone you loved, were betrayed, lied to, heartbroken or put down.

Whether it was a family member or a complete stranger, whether it was something big, or something small, that you still can't let go of...   the emotional wound will inevitably lead to pain and anger, if you don't make the decision to forgive.


I once read a beautiful but simple quote that said "let your past make you better, not bitter".

And it is definitely as simple as it is true.
Resenting someone or something, will never make you a better and happier person.
By doing that you're freezing yourself at that particular moment in time, and revolving around your pain, grief, and  sadness.  
You are making that moment last longer, maybe forever.
You are the one condemning yourself to that.
And you are the only one, that no matter how hard it may seem, can decide to make it stop!

As I always tweet to you guys, we are SUCH incredibly powerful beings.
We need to honor that amazing power by using it for good, positive things!

Tic Tac.  Tic Tac.  That's your life passing by as you're stuck with negative feelings...
Tic Tac Tic Tac  That moment you just spent resenting has just gone by and will never come back...

Take a trip to your heart.  Teach yourself how to turn hate into love
Forgive.  For yourself.  To be a little happier every day.
Forgive.  Because you love yourself.
Forgive.  Because you too have hurt someone.
And Forgive... Yourself.

You deserve to have an amazing and joyful life.
Don't wait.  Start this instant.



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2 comments:

  1. thanks for those quotes. i really needed that :)

    Weirdo
    www.weirdomodernthoughts.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm so glad it helped :)))
      And thanks for saying hi!

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